By Kelly Wickham Hurst
When it comes to kids and police violence, every parent of a Black child sending their child to school this morning (too many mornings, in fact) is grappling with how much they should discuss with their child about what is happening in the United States, and what they can do to keep their adolescents in safe spaces while navigating constant violence on display in our social and main-stream media.
From the the foul responses to Colin Kaepernick’s silent protest of the National Anthem to the most recent killings of unarmed Black people the trauma being brought into school systems today is real. News feeds and news outlets have been playing the videos on repeat. The racism and microagressions in the comment sections are real– and they damaging.
So, what can you do? Personally, I understand the need to Call in Black today. However for many of us– and for our students trying to get an education– calling in probably isn’t an option. First, we can acknowledge their names: Tyre King, Terence Crutcher, Keith Lamont Scott, and Crystal Edmonds.
Next, share our Kids and Police Violence: Things Schools Can Do Today for Black Students. Print it off and take it to the next PTO or PTA meeting. Drop a link to this to your child’s principal. Give a copy to your child’s teacher.
10 Things Schools Can Do Today
- Suspend lessons that may trigger students.If you’re doing a forensic lesson in a high school science class that involves a physical body as part of your teaching then today is a good day to take a beat. Or, if the lesson in history class is about protests that this country has held before (like that Boston Tea Party) and teachers are not making that connection to civic disobedience and the protests for Black Lives Matter then it’s probably time to reassess how we’re using critical thinking and promoting individual thoughts and beliefs in the classroom. Not every lesson is for every day. Teachers may not be comfortable with the discussions that ensue.
- Use your Emotional Health triage systems. Many schools are equipped with social workers and psychologists and teams of professionals who work toward emotional health. We employ these in the system when crises happen such as the death of a student, violence in the community, or a state of emergency. These teams need to mobilize NOW as a response to Black students who both empathize and feel deeply about the world around them and the ones who are experiencing crushing depression and anxiety around the state-sanctioned violence they see and hear about.
- Respond with ACTION. Black students (specifically women) at American University this week have been attacked with bananasand many students are dissatisfied with the response from their school. In order to create safe spaces, schools should respond with conduct charges, investigations, and pro-active statements to their communities about how they will deal with violent acts. Instead, students are pressuring school leaders to do something more than empty town hall meetings. Systems need to respond first and not put the onus on violated students to force it.
- Create Safe Spaces.Students, today especially, may be in need of a space in which they can express themselves. Provide art materials and journals and safe adults to them when you notice them acting out no matter what their developmental age is. Many young students aren’t prepared to put into words what they’re feeling so provide soft items (like pipe cleaners and squishy balls) for them to use as a calming device.
- Practice radical empathy.Oftentimes, Black students are not allowed the space to emotionally express what’s happening. If you notice them acting out in new ways stop what you’re asking them to do and see if they need to be escorted by a loving adult to one of the safe spaces mentioned above. Suspend judgment and lessons on which they cannot concentrate today. In fact, take their emotional temperature on a regular and consistent basis. All schools can work toward this for Black students that they regularly send to discipline offices instead of caring for emotional needs.
- Engage family participation.A really easy phone call to make to parents raising Black children is to simply ask, “Is your child particularly affected by the events they see in the news of violence?” This is two-fold: one, schools can acknowledge that this is a lived truth and two, they can open a conversation and allow parents of Black children to LEAD in how to care for their children. This is good practice no matter the news cycle. Invite parents raising these children who know them best to participate in the creation of safe spaces. Often, this is all parents want to do in the first place.
- Study Cultural Competency in a whole staff setting. Teachers, support staff, and administrators can all work toward this by putting it at the top of every agenda especially when working with populations that aren’t reflected in the adults in a building. Unpack your invisible knapsack. Revisit implicit bias in your pedagogy. Create teams for restorative justice. This work can be done in team settings as well. Use this for your next faculty meeting focus. It’s already too late.
- Call for help, not police or SROs.Schools are tasked with caring for children with professional adults who have training and knowledge in areas of child development. Police and SROs should not be called in to deal with a difficult child who happens to be Black. You are re-traumatizing a child when you do that with the absence of their parent present. Use social workers, psychologists, administrators, and caring adults who understand the work of anti-racism in systems. Reach out to organizations who do this work if your school is woefully lacking in this.Never ever threaten a Black child by telling them you’re going to call the police on them.
- Be mindful of White Savior Complex responses in systems.Language and semantics matter every day, but it’s important to be mindful of how schools are responding today for students feeling disenfranchised and ignored. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, we are now a minority-majority education system, with 51% of our students (25.9 million) being of color. As of 2007–2008, 83 percent of teachers in U.S. public schools are white. Recognizing this disparity is crucial to understanding how much work needs to occur in systems that can create inherently racist policies and ignored responses to the emotional health of Black children. Our goal at Being Black at School is to identify this first in order to change it.
- Empower Black students.Give them space for leadership. I have not given up hope that this generation is prepared for things which my own generation was not. Young activists are out there. Students care about their education and also of their well-being and they are out here doing the work. While you’re at it, empower your Black colleagues today as well. Don’t rely on them to do the emotional lifting and do not demand anything from them. Ask Black teachers, administrators, and students what THEY need today and then get to work.
Other Things You Can Do Today:
Pick up your phone and call the Tulsa District Attorney’s office directly and demand that the Tulsa DA Kunzweiler indict the officers who murdered Terence Crutcher by dialing (918) 596–4805.
Open up your email and write to DA Kunzweiler and demand that the officers who murdered Terence Crutcher be indicted: DistrictAttorney@tulsacounty.org
Sign this Color of Change petition to indict Officer Betty Shelby.
Practice self care with these steps for emotional and psychological trauma laid out by therapist and writer Jasmine Banks.
Financially support the efforts of Being Black at School in their quest for policy changes and cultural competency.
Understand the link between racism and PTSD with this resource by Monnica T. Williams PhD over at Psychology Today.
Share this link with educators from a collaborative effort by ESSENCE and ProPublica on Black America’s Invisible Crisis written by Lois Beckett.
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Kelly Wickham Hurst is the founder and CEO of Being Black at School, an initiative to empower parents raising Black children in schools that are safe for them. She is the married mother of six who recently left a 23-year career in public school systems. Find more of Kelly’s writing at kellywickham.com.
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