This Is 45—And Other Happy Birthday Musings
Hell yes, raise your glasses, y’all: today is my birthday and I’m celebrating turning a juicy, chocolatey, delicious, badass 45. Yup, that’s right: the four and the five, yo.
I suppose that in some circles, on this day I should consider myself middle aged. Which is a kind of nice way of calling somebody “old.” Why just a few days ago, a popular brand seeking bloggers to help promote its products emphasized it was looking for moms between ages 24 and 40, making it clear that anybody above age 40 is too old/stale/boring/out-of-touch/washed-up/dead wrong to say anything useful about its company, much less be associated with it. Of course, I lodged my thoughts about such folly—the ridiculousness of it. I’d be really interested, too, in whether that company would turn down the services of, say, Janet Jackson (47), Halle Berry (47), Gabrielle Union (41), Nia Long (43), Sanaa Lathan (42), Jada Pinkett (42), or Jennifer Lopez (44). Right.
Look, I do accept that I am no longer young. This is a truth. But my truth is this: I’ve never felt stronger, wiser, more confident, beautiful, sexy or smarter than on this day. Chalk that up to learning. And experience. Living. A smidge of “I really don’t give a damn” righteousness. And my trainer, Cliff “Hollywood” Boyce, who has built up not just my muscle and metabolism, but my strength—physically and mentally (more on this in a blog post soon to come!).
Each of these things have picked up steam over the years, for sure: I am smarter than the 17-year-old that won a full-tuition college scholarship, a more cunning writer than the 25-year-old who got recruited to be the youngest and only African American political reporter for the New York Daily News, and a better author than the 28-year-old who got her first book deal based off of a features story she hardly thought important. I am a better wife (at least I hope I am) than the clueless 28-year-old who thought love was enough to sustain a marriage and a better mother, too, than the scared 31-year-old first-time mom who pushed out her first, beautiful baby girl and prayed to God, Yahweh, Allah, Jehovah, Ma’at and Rastafari that she wouldn’t break her. And I am more solidified now than ever in my heart’s desires—what it is that makes me happy, and the things that do not and what I will and will not do and what I will and will not say “yes” to and who I do and don’t want to be around and, well, being 100 percent in Denene’s corner.
I am not perfect. I know I have plenty more work to do.
I know, too, that I also have a lot more living to do.
And at 45, I’m just getting warmed up.
Stand back—watch me work.
Mom. NY Times bestselling author. Pop culture ninja. Unapologetic lover of shoes, bacon and babies. Nice with the verbs. Founder of the top black parenting website, MyBrownBaby.
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You make 45 look DAMB good, Denene! My goodness. That EXTRA GOOD Black that don’t crack!
I’m wishing you a HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY, because you epitomize awesome. What you lack in wrinkles, you got in grace, favor, beauty, and the ability to bless those you’re around. LOVE you, Denene!!!
Happy birthday to the beautiful, sexy, confident, brilliant, bad ass beauty, my friend Denene!! I love everything you so proudly exude ! I will celebrate with the same mantra for my 45th in a few weeks!!!
You’re stunning in every photo I’ve ever seen of you so 45 had nothing on you anyway. You look beautiful and strong and amazing. Happy birthday!
No way you’re 45! Chocolaty deliciousness indeed!
You look great!!! cannot wait to turn 45 so that I will have the opportunity to look like that. Many more birthday wishes to you. Have a happy day and a great year.
Happy Birthday DeNeNe …. keep on … keeping on … !!! I’m 52 and still kicking down walls and doors … and having FUN doing it! Like they say … ” … it ani’t nothing but a number!!!”
Happy Birthday Lady! You give grown and sexy a good name!
Happy Happy Birthday! I know we’ve only met once but I admire and respect you immensely. I have been following your work for years and I hope to be half as great as you are when I turn 45.
What a lovely image for our brown daughters to behold!
You don’t even look CLOSE to 45. Amazing.
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BEAUTIFUL, SEXY AND POWERFUL SISTA..KEEP REPRESENTING US AND OUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILIES!! ONE LOVE
Happy Birthday Sista’! Get your grown woman on and enjoy. Owning up to our age is beautiful for it allow us to live in and experience the moment that will pass quickly. Blessings to you for living out loud!
Happy Belated Birthday! I remember reading one of your first books as a single 20-something myself and also meeting you and your husband at Sister Space & Books in Washington, DC with your first daughter. It is wonderful to see your success and how you are even more fabulous now at 45! Blessings to you!